My Social Anxiety (part 36)
Posted on Oct 11, 2008 under what is anxiety |
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October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
Yes, I do. I think …
Yes, I do. I think it’s perfectly healthy. I like talking to myself…I’m a good listener!
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
i also have social …
i also have social anxiety. got a question for you. you say you don’t talk alot, but do you talk alot to yourself? cuz i talk to myself all the time. in fact i talk to myself more than anyone else.
JohnD
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
People are only …
People are only themselves when they have nothing to lose. Look at the work environment. The owners of the companies are themselves, basically, but as you move down the hierarchy, you become less and less your true self. lol. Its an interesting topic.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
think about …
think about flipping it. Try to find out who u are by finding out who ur not.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
I think you’re a …
I think you’re a lot closer to finding out who you are than you think you are. You really have come into your own it seems. Most everyone has a guard and filter for what they speak. Your actions (candy, shrink wrap) let people know who you really are…that old saying actions speak louder than words. I bet if you just opened up a little but more to people (which will happen as you work on the anxiety) you will come into your own.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
Your thoughts are …
Your thoughts are so similar to mine! I feel like the only thing that ever makes me angry is when someone else is angry at me. I think being so judge-mental of one-self really brings along a sense of how others will feel if you hurt them emotionally. That’s really where the whole “agreeing with everyone” thing stems from. You want everyone to like you, so you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or come off the wrong way. Sadly, i think being drunk is one of the best ways for me to be myself.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
yup. me too. i …
yup. me too. i think we know who we are but it just feels so strange to express how we feel. for me, when i have a thought and want to say it, it just feels so forced that it seems like it is something weird or strange. you seem like an awesome person in your videos.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
yes yes yes i know …
yes yes yes i know what u mean spiffy. i used to be overly nice. i used to be the girl that people asked to copy homework from. hah oh lord. im always classified as the quiet one.
i usually just nod and giggle in a social situation, maybe throw in a question or two just to spice it up. haha but i would never go beyond 2-3 sentences.
but u work! that’s ah-may-zing for someone with SA. do u have to interact with alot of ppl tho?
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
I know what you …
I know what you mean. When I first went to my therapist about my anxiety, I felt like I was being a girl having to sit there and explain my emotional difficulty with anxiety. I felt this strange obligation to just be distant and hide my thoughts and emotions, as other males around me did. Only, in the concern of suffering, it is NOT good to keep some things hidden away - especially if you want to get better. Which you have and done, so well done
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
Sometimes I think I …
Sometimes I think I find a little bit of myself, but then wonder, is that really me or am I just copying others and agreeing with that and making it out to be me? If that makes sense.
I think atleast you have a good start at knowing who you really are by those actions you’ve mentioned, it seems as if you like to do things for others and maybe be a bit funny perhaps? I don’t know. Just guessing. I suppose that’s all a person can do if they are in this situation, guess.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
I think you did …
I think you did pretty good at explaining. I have the same problem, I don’t know who I am. I don’t know how to act. I’m a different person by myself (sometimes even a few “persons”), in my writing and around people. Most people don’t understand what I mean by that! I don’t come across the right way, or people don’t get me. I’m not good at talking. I have no idea how to find myself or fix this.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
Haha, I’m the same …
Haha, I’m the same way about using actions to express myself. I do a lot of quirky things that people seem to like. But as far as words, I’m trying to be more assertive and less of a “nice guy” that finishes last (in my experience). Good video!
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
Forcing new …
Forcing new behaviour over time will remove the anxiety, but it all comes from realizing that it can’t hurt you, and that it’s basically fear of fear, which is irrational. Take off the mask, don’t be too serious about things.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
What helped me …
What helped me tremendously with my SA at least was ‘taking off my mask’. I mean, observe yourself in the moment when your anxiety is high or you’re having a panic attack i.e. on a bus. Your body will make it feel like hell, but you have to realize that it doesn’t mean anything. It is not gonna hurt you, and nor have anyone ever been hurt by going through a panic attack or likewise. Accept whatevers happening, don’t try to stop it from happening. This is a behaviour that a body thinks is normal.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
well. i think that …
well. i think that since you said your more yourself when you write things down, maybe you should keep a journal. and before you start thinking journals are girly they really arent. especially if its helps make a guy better at whatever he does. aside from that, i think that you should write about the situations where you found yourself doing something just becuz it would make that person happy. write about how you might have handled it if you didn’t have SA. try that…its worth a shot and GL.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
Essentially, you …
Essentially, you have a strong desire to be more assertive.
I’ve been working on that exact thing for a few years and I’m glad to say that I am definitely more outspoken with my thoughts and opinions than I used to be. Of course, it does help that I am extremely articulate– after all, I do have aspirations to become a professional but I still think you can do it. You seem to be the most articulate SA sufferer on YouTube. Good luck with recovery, man!
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
what a nice …
what a nice disclaimer: “It wouldn’t be a quality video unless I bs’d it.”
Anyways, I have the opposite problem! I feel like I know who I am but anxiety kills it, so I turn into something else, which is also me! Split personality.
I try to take the seriousness out of situations. Also, controlling how/what people see of due to what you expose them too (works best slowly). This will help build a personality, at least to others. The more you restrict also works too, but in a cold way.
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
seems like you get …
seems like you get out of SA ? care to share your XP with other ? more detail would really help
October 11th, 2008 at 1:16 am
I like your videos, …
I like your videos, I think I went through the same kind of situation when I was younger. I can only think of one thing that could help you “find yourself” : you ought to have a girl friend (or boy friend) to share deep emotions with… Have a good weekend !